Non-monogamy has a way of bringing everything to the surface.

Jealousy. Insecurity. Fear of abandonment. Comparison. The tension between what you believe intellectually and what actually happens inside you in certain moments.

A lot of people come into non-monogamy with a strong sense of their values: honesty, openness, autonomy, freedom, and then find themselves in emotional territory that feels much messier than expected.

You may know how you want to show up in relationships and still find yourself spiraling, shutting down, over-accommodating, grasping for reassurance, or reacting in ways that feel painfully familiar.

This work is about slowing down enough to understand what’s happening underneath those moments.

Together, we look at the patterns shaping how you relate to intimacy, conflict, boundaries, desire, closeness, and self-worth.

Some of the things we might work with:

• jealousy, insecurity, comparison, and attachment

• difficulty knowing what you actually need or want

• people-pleasing, self-abandonment, or over-functioning in relationships

• communicating clearly without shutting down or reacting on autopilot

• untangling old beliefs around love, sex, worth, and partnership

• building relationships that can hold more honesty, complexity, and real humanity

I primarily work with people navigating non-monogamy and polyamory who have already done a lot of thinking, reflecting, and personal growth, but still feel caught in patterns they can’t quite think their way out of.

Sessions are held online via video, duration: 60 minutes, cost is $108

In the San Francisco area? I offer in-home sessions at a higher rate for those who prefer in-person support in their own space.